Honing a Child to be a Disciple?

Disclaimer:  Please be advised that the article below was solely based on the author's own experiences. None of the claims intend to persuade or convince...just expressing a random thought.

Parenting could be the most challenging role to play at one point and could be the easiest to handle in another. Either way the goal is to bring up a disciplined child. So the norms suggest that when you do the process of putting a child in his/her most behaved situation you, as a parent actually, is making a well disciplined child.  But is this all there is to it?  When a child is grounded for making mistakes, (apparently evaluated by how adults think like 'a bad action') such as no tv, no sweets, no toys, practically waiving their ownership rights they are expected to correct the behavior and do otherwise as they deem, making them an obedient child (a regular parent's concept). So when a child follows what moms or dads say he or she becomes a good kid and so rewards are pouring like rainstorm. Then, it becomes a cycle. The only remarkable thing a child can remember now is to act rightfully on that particular instance and get some retributions for it. But the tricky part is that the kid will almost always commit the same mistakes again, which obviously tells me that nothing is learned and nothing is improved.

So now my dilemma arises.  I know for a fact that disciplining a child in many forms can absolutely improve a child's well-being.  But the question lies on until when? Which part of that disciplining can create a long-term impact into a child's development.  I guess the goal is not so much on disciplining a child and becoming what our brains or norms as parents or adults understood but instilling in them the mindset of independent understanding and judgment so they themselves can realize the goodness or badness of an act in a long term perspective.

I hope that I don't raise a disciple in my child but one who is just, independent kid and emotionally intelligent to understand that a wrong doing is not remedied in that very instance alone but is certainly an issue that needs to get a long-term solution.

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